What is Emotional Intelligence? Feb 28, 2018
Learning the hard way
I come from a background that included a 20 year emotionally abusive relationship thus I needed to understand what emotions where, what they are about and why we have them. I developed Emotional Intelligence the hard way like most of us, through trail and error. What feels emotionally good for one person may not have the same outcome to another.
Gaining emotional intelligence about your own feelings is the first step. Learning more about YOU helps you know what you like and dislike. However understanding other people’s emotions and not taking them on board as your own is the true essence of Emotional Intelligence. Reacting and responding to other people’s emotions is NOT emotional Intelligence.
Emotions are used by our physical and spiritual bodies to communicate with each other. They are guiding feelings to let us know what we like or dislike. They come from our spirit and are used to communicate to the physical body therefore acting or responding to other peoples emotions is not in line with you true core values or spirit. When other people coerce, manipulate or use emotions to sway or change you and it is not in line with you is a form of Emotional Abuse and the opposite to Emotional Intelligence.
I experience Emotional Abuse for over 20 years before I understood what it was and what I could do about it. That was to create Emotional Intelligence within myself which I did and continue to nurture and grow.
It doesn’t matter how you get your understanding the fact is once you know and feel it you cannot ever undo that knowing. You may forget what it feels like but that knowing will always come through in some way.
Being Emotionally Intelligent means knowing if the emotions belong to you or to someone else and then what you choose to do with those feelings.