Restricting Negative Energy With Positive Boundaries

Scissor Energy teaches us how to leverage intentional actions and it shows us how to take control over our lives to transform them. Previously, we focused on cutting away what no longer serves us (read more about Cutting Negative Energy Connections ). Now, we move into the second layer of taking control which is about Restricting Negative Energy.

Understanding Restriction: Why It Is Different

Unlike cutting, which severs energy ties completely, restriction involves creating boundaries that allow some energy exchange, while preventing it from overwhelming you. While cutting creates an immediate and decisive change, restriction is a gradual refinement process.

This practice is particularly useful for ongoing relationships, such as with family, colleagues, or close friends, where cutting ties isn’t practical or desirable. An example of this is: If cutting feels like clearing the large overgrown branches of a tree, then restriction is like a gentle pruning. It is a way to shape and direct growth without removing the entire connection.

Your intuition plays a crucial role here. It helps you sense when a connection needs limiting rather than severing. Pay attention to your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual responses when with others as these signals guide you for the best approach. Not sure what your strongest Intuitive Nature is? Take the quiz to see how you best receive these intuitive messages.  

By practicing restriction using boundaries, you take a deliberate and intuitive approach to managing your energy, allowing for healthier, more harmonious connections.

Four Steps to Restrict Negative Energy

Boundaries help you regulate movement, emotions, thoughts, and energy. Unlike walls, boundaries can be flexible or firm, depending on what you need in the moment. They act as guidelines rather than rigid rules, allowing you to decide when to step in, step back, or let things go. Naturally, you will decide on how your boundary will be and how strong you want it.

Here are four intuitive steps to help you restrict negative energy and restore balance using boundaries:

1. Visual Anchors for Restriction – Physical Boundaries

Just don’t go there! Having a clear visual reminder can help reinforce your boundaries and keep your energy in check. Sometimes, a physical object like a crystal, a piece of jewellery, or even a simple sticky note on your desk can serve as a strong anchor. I keep a crystal on my computer desk to remind me to think abundantly while creating products. Every time I see it, I check in with my mindset and shift my thoughts if needed.

You can also set boundaries with time. A stopwatch or a timer can help you carve out moments for yourself, creating space where you don’t have to be available to everyone. If you tend to lose track of time and overcommit, setting an alarm can be a gentle nudge to step back. Even something as simple as wearing a ring or bracelet that makes you feel empowered can be a way to reinforce a personal boundary, it becomes a quiet signal that reminds you to hold your space.

My Personal Example: When my marriage first ended a physical boundary for me was also about not going to certain places, especially when I didn’t have to, knowing my ex could be there. If I could avoid or stay away if made it easier for me to start with. After time those boundaries were eased off.  

Intuitive Insight: Your intuition will guide you to the right symbol or object. Trust that the things you feel drawn to hold meaning, and use them as powerful reminders of your energy limits.

2. Limit Emotional Availability – Emotional Boundaries

Just say no! At first, it can feel difficult, even impossible, to set emotional boundaries, but starting small makes it easier over time. If something doesn’t feel right, give yourself permission to say, “Not this time.” You don’t owe anyone full access to your emotions, and by limiting your availability, you can protect your own energy.

Think about the times when someone unloads their emotional baggage onto you, expecting you to carry it. Maybe a friend always calls to vent but never asks how you are. Instead of absorbing their negativity, you can listen without taking it on. If the conversation starts to feel draining, shift the topic, excuse yourself, or even say, “I hear you, but I don’t have the emotional space for this right now.” If you find yourself dreading interactions with certain people because they leave you feeling exhausted, trust that feeling. Not every relationship needs constant emotional access, and setting a limit isn’t unkind—it’s self-care.

If saying “no” directly feels too hard, you can start with softer approaches like “I’m not feeling up to it today” or “Let’s talk another time.” The more you practice, the easier it becomes, and soon, you’ll notice how much lighter you feel when you’re no longer carrying other people’s emotional weight.

My Personal Example: As an empath emotional boundaries can be the most painful ones to put in place and I remember the first time I said no. Yes, I was shaking and it felt awful plus I thought I had to justify my reason for saying “I’m sorry but I don’t have the time at the moment” but those feelings eased as I got better at I empowering myself. Emotional manipulation is what to watch out for here. If you feel you are being guilt driven into something then you need to give yourself breathing space before making a decision. Nowadays I don’t always say “no” because I want to keep my options open but I will say “I’ll need to check first” this gives me some breathing space to decide yes or no.

Intuitive Insight: Pay attention to your emotional response after interactions. If you feel lighter, energized, or peaceful, the boundary is working. If you feel drained or resentful, you may need to strengthen it.

3. Filter Your Inputs – Mental Boundaries

Think smart. Everything you consume—whether it’s conversations, social media, or news—affects your mental energy. Filtering what you allow into your space helps you stay in control of your thoughts.

Start by taking a step back and assessing what you engage with daily. If scrolling through social media leaves you feeling frustrated or drained, consider unfollowing accounts that bring negativity into your space. You don’t have to keep watching the news if it makes you feel anxious or overwhelmed—your mental boundary could be as simple as deciding to read only headlines or switching to uplifting content instead.

Even in conversation, notice how certain topics affect you. If discussions always spiral into negativity, ask yourself, “Is this serving me?” If not, redirect the conversation or step away entirely. Mental boundaries also include being mindful of your own thought patterns. When you catch yourself slipping into self-doubt or negative thinking, pause and ask, “Is this what I want to focus on?” That moment of awareness gives you the power to shift your mindset.

My Personal Example: If you thought emotional boundaries were hard, then think again about mental boundaries. They can do your head in! I have enough going on in my head without negative outside influences having an effect. My mental boundaries come in the form of a break. Whether it is a short break from the computer, a longer break like a weekend away, or a break from the world I live in by making an overseas trip. It is not just about the trip or the break it is also about the lead-up towards it. The organising and planning, the focus on something positive, the mental break from what is going on in our everyday lives. Most of all it is that knowing that when I do have a break of any sort, the world doesn’t actually stop but continues on without me stressing. Who would have thought?  

Intuitive Insight: The key is remembering that you get to choose what occupies your mental space. By filtering your inputs, you create room for clarity, positivity, and inner peace.

4. Set Boundaries with Intention – Spiritual Boundaries

Trust your intuition. Spiritual boundaries are the unseen barriers that protect your energy while still allowing for meaningful interactions. Being an intuitive medium, I’ve learned the importance of setting clear spiritual boundaries. People often expect deep insights from me the moment they start talking, but I’ve had to establish a practice where I only tune in fully when I’m intentionally doing a reading. Just because we are always connected to our intuition doesn’t mean we have to be available at all times.

One way to set spiritual boundaries is through visualisation. You can imagine a golden line surrounding your personal space, allowing only positive energy to flow through while blocking negativity. Some people visualize a shield or a gate that only opens for energy that serves them.

Not all spiritual connections are positive, and just as you wouldn’t invite a stranger into your home, you don’t have to allow every energy into your space. If something feels off—whether it’s an interaction, a place, or a request for your energy, trust that feeling. You are in control of how open or closed your spiritual boundaries are, and strengthening them will help you navigate your intuition more powerfully.

My Personal Example: Spiritual boundaries are the strongest ones to put in place and are the hardest to realise when they are needed. I used to meet weekly with a group of ladies to talk about our businesses. We would support each other and give ideas out, helping each other as we went along. It was great to start with but changed as we went along. I found myself leaving the sessions feeling very drained and negative. I realised the spiritual or energy boundaries were being crossed and commented on it. Unfortunately, it didn’t go down very well and the group stopped meeting.  I may not have expressed myself properly or it might have just been time to go our own ways. Either way, I felt the drain and eventually did something about it. If I had known about protection properly like you will in the next episode I would have handled it differently.

Intuitive Insight: Your intuition will warn you when an energy exchange is unbalanced. If an interaction feels draining, intrusive, or overwhelming, that’s a sign to reinforce your boundary.

Integrating Restriction into Your Life

By restricting negative energy, you create space for clarity and balance. This process, combined with cutting negative ties, starts to form a holistic approach to managing your energy.

Remember, your intuition is your guide. Trust the messages it sends as you navigate relationships and environments. These steps will empower you to maintain control without sacrificing meaningful connections.

For more insights, revisit The Powers and explore how you can create harmony in all areas of your life.

What Comes Next? Protecting Your Energy

Restricting negative energy is a powerful step toward maintaining balance and focus. But even with boundaries in place, external influences can still attempt to infiltrate your space. That’s where the final aspect of taking control comes in: Protecting Your Energy.

In the next blog, we’ll explore how to shield yourself from negativity, fortify your energy field, and ensure that the changes you’ve made are sustainable. Stay tuned for practical techniques to safeguard your emotional and mental well-being while fostering growth and positivity.