Allowing Trust by Releasing Resistance and Embracing Flow

When life pushes us into unexpected change, our instinct is often to resist. We cling to what feels familiar, even if it no longer serves us, because letting go feels too uncertain, too painful. But the first step in truly trusting the process is to allow—to release resistance and surrender to the unfolding of life.

The Struggle to Let Go and Allow Trust

Imagine being in a workplace disagreement, where you’re firmly holding your ground in an argument. You know you’re right, and you feel compelled to defend your position. But what if, instead of resisting, you paused and considered another perspective? Sometimes, even when we are convinced of our stance, there’s value in listening, adapting, and finding a different way forward.

Holding onto control in situations like these can make us rigid, causing unnecessary friction. However, when we learn to step back and assess the bigger picture, we may see that the conflict is actually an opportunity—a push to grow, change direction, or reconsider our approach. In both business and life, we have to pick our battles to win the trust. Not every argument needs to be won, and not every situation needs to be resisted. Sometimes, the best way forward is to allow for change and trust that a new, better path will emerge.

Allowing Trust in Times of Heartbreak

Let’s return to the example of a relationship breakdown. In the aftermath, it’s natural to feel like your world has shattered. You replay every moment, searching for ways you could have changed the outcome. You resist the reality, bargaining with fate, wishing things had turned out differently. But resisting the truth only prolongs the pain.

Allowing doesn’t mean you instantly feel okay. It means you accept where you are. You allow yourself to grieve, to feel the emotions fully, without suppressing or numbing them. You stop trying to rewrite the past and start focusing on what this moment is teaching you. Maybe it’s showing you where you need to heal. Maybe it’s guiding you toward self-discovery. Maybe, just maybe, it’s leading you to something greater.

The Power of Surrendering to Allow Trust

Surrendering to the process doesn’t mean giving up—it means letting go of control over things you cannot change. It means recognizing that even in pain, growth is happening. When you stop resisting, you begin to notice the small shifts: the clarity that comes from solitude, the strength that builds in moments of discomfort, the new opportunities that arise when you finally let go of what was holding you back.

Think of a tree in autumn. It doesn’t resist the falling leaves, trying to hold onto them out of fear of being bare. It allows the process, knowing that in letting go, it makes space for new growth in the spring. Your own transformation is no different.

How to Embrace Allowing Trust

1. Feel Without Judgment – Give yourself permission to experience your emotions fully. If you’re sad, cry. If you’re angry, acknowledge it. Avoid labelling your feelings as ‘good’ or ‘bad’—they are simply part of the human experience. For example, if you’re struggling after a job loss, rather than pushing past your emotions, allow yourself to grieve the uncertainty. Only by feeling fully can you begin to move forward.
2. Release the ‘What Ifs’ – Stop replaying different scenarios in your head. What happened, happened. Now is the time to shift focus toward what comes next. If you’ve ended a long-term friendship, you might find yourself stuck in a cycle of wondering if you should have said something different or done something differently. Instead, recognize that every experience teaches you something valuable. Redirect your energy toward the present and how you can cultivate healthier connections moving forward.
3. Trust That Answers Will Come – You don’t need to have all the solutions right now. The more you allow yourself to be present, the more clarity will emerge in time. Imagine you’re facing a major career decision and feel lost in uncertainty. Rather than forcing an immediate answer, trust that through exploration—conversations, new experiences, or even moments of silence—the right direction will reveal itself.

Allowing Trust and Moving Forward

Allowing is the first step in trusting the process. When you stop resisting, you begin to notice the subtle ways life is supporting you. You can feel without judgement, release the “what if’s and Trust that the answers will come.  The next step is opening—being willing to receive new possibilities, new experiences, and new beginnings. In the next blog, we’ll explore what it means to truly open yourself to what’s next.

Stay on the journey, it’s leading you exactly where you need to be.