Trust Your Intuition and Open Yourself to New Possibilities
When we go through difficult transitions, it’s easy to become closed off. After a painful breakup, a betrayal, or a major life shift, we instinctively want to protect ourselves. We build emotional walls, convinced that staying guarded will keep us safe. But in doing so, we may also block the very opportunities that could lead to healing, growth, and new beginnings.
To truly trust the process, we must not only allow change but also open ourselves to the possibilities it brings. Trust your Intuition.
The Power of Being Open
Think of a time when you felt closed off from life. Maybe it was after a relationship ended, and you told yourself you’d never love again. Maybe it was when you lost a job, and you convinced yourself that nothing better would come. In those moments, it’s tempting to retreat into our comfort zones, but staying closed keeps us stuck.
Now, recall a time when you took a chance—when you said yes despite the fear. Maybe you went on a spontaneous trip, met someone new, or pursued a career change even though it felt risky. More often than not, those moments of openness led to something unexpected and beautiful.
Life is constantly presenting opportunities, but we have to be willing to see them. If we focus solely on what we’ve lost, we miss what is trying to come in. The door to something new can’t open if we keep it locked from the inside. Trust Your Intuition
Why Intuition Gets Harder to Hear After Trauma
One of the quietest consequences of going through painful experiences — a betrayal, an abusive relationship, a significant loss — is that your intuition gets buried. Not lost, but buried. Under layers of self-doubt, hypervigilance, and the exhausting mental noise that follows trauma.
When we’ve been hurt, especially by someone we trusted, we often stop trusting ourselves. We begin to second-guess the very instincts that were trying to protect us. We wonder: Did I miss the signs? Should I have known? Can I trust my own judgement? That internal questioning can become so loud that the quiet, steady voice of intuition can’t get a word in.
This is why healing and intuition are so deeply connected. As the emotional weight lifts — through time, through support, through practices that help you reconnect with yourself — your intuition begins to surface again. It was always there. It just needed space to breathe.
If you’ve been navigating emotional pain and find that trusting yourself feels almost impossible right now, that’s not a flaw. It’s a very human response to having been hurt. The path back to your intuition is gentle, and it begins with simply being willing to listen — even if what you hear at first is only a whisper.
A Personal Journey of Openness and Trust
I experienced this firsthand when I made the life-changing decision to leave behind a business manager, renters in my home, and even my family—my youngest daughter had just left for university—to pursue a three-year degree. I wanted to better myself and hopefully reach more people to help. It was a leap of faith, one that required me to trust in my intuition.
During those three years, I worked three part-time jobs while attending university full-time. The hard work paid off—I graduated in the top 5% of students in my year. But just six months after graduating, the government changed, and all the positions related to my Public Health degree were made redundant. I suddenly found myself in a situation where the career I had trained for was no longer a viable option.
At first, I questioned everything. Had I made a mistake? Had I trusted the wrong path? But then, I shifted my perspective. Instead of focusing on what I had lost, I looked at what I had gained—new skills, a deep familiarity with technology, and a newfound ability to embrace change. I started saying yes to new opportunities, even when I wasn’t sure where they would lead. Not everything worked out, but each experience provided greater clarity about my true calling.
I realised I was never meant to do just one thing. I had always pursued multiple passions, and now, I had the tools to bring them together. While working full-time in a menial job, I began writing my first book. That was the moment everything changed. My knowledge, skills, and determination came together, and my passion for writing and spiritual work took shape. Eventually, my book, Intuitive Nature: Empowering Your Emotional Goals, was published. My intuition had led me exactly where I needed to be, equipping me with everything required to step fully into my purpose.
A Metaphor for Openness
Imagine standing in a dark room with the curtains drawn. You might feel safe there, but you’re also shutting out the light. The moment you open the curtains, even just a little, the light begins to seep in. Slowly, the room brightens, revealing what was hidden in the shadows.
Openness works the same way. You don’t have to throw open the doors all at once, but even the smallest act of opening—being receptive to change, entertaining a new idea, or saying yes to an invitation—can let in the light of transformation.
The Difference Between Trusting the Process and Giving Up Control
This is a distinction that trips many people up, and it’s worth taking a moment to get clear on it — because they can feel very similar from the inside, but they’re not the same thing at all.
Giving up control often comes from a place of resignation. It’s the feeling of what’s the point, nothing I do matters anyway. It’s passive. It can look like openness from the outside, but inside it’s driven by defeat rather than trust.
Trusting the process is active. It means making your best decisions with the information you have, taking the next right step even when you can’t see the full path, and then releasing the need to control the outcome. It’s not passive acceptance — it’s a conscious, often courageous choice to stay present and engaged even in uncertainty.
The key difference is energy. Giving up contracts; trusting expands. One closes you down; the other keeps you open.
Practically speaking, trusting the process looks like: taking a small action toward something that feels aligned, even if you’re not sure it will work out. It looks like strengthening your intuition so that your inner compass becomes more reliable. It looks like choosing, each day, to stay curious about what’s coming rather than braced against it.
You are not giving up your power when you trust. You are redirecting it — away from controlling outcomes, and toward shaping your own response to whatever arrives.
How to Begin Opening Up and Trust your Intuition
Opening yourself to new possibilities doesn’t mean throwing caution to the wind. It’s about making small, intentional shifts that welcome change.
- Shift Your Perspective – Instead of viewing change as something to fear, see it as a doorway to something greater. Every ending makes space for a beginning, even if you can’t see it yet. My degree didn’t lead to the career I expected, but it gave me the tools to create something even more aligned with my purpose.
- Say Yes More Often – When an opportunity arises, resist the urge to immediately say no. Pause. Consider it. Even if it feels uncomfortable, ask yourself: What if this could lead to something amazing? I took on different jobs, wrote a book, and explored new paths because I remained open, and those decisions reshaped my future.
- Be Open to Unexpected Paths – Sometimes, life doesn’t unfold the way we planned, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t leading us somewhere incredible. A detour might be the exact path you need. Losing the chance to work in public health felt like a loss, but in reality, it freed me to do the intuitive work I was meant to do.
What Openness Actually Looks Like Day to Day
It’s easy to talk about openness as a concept. It’s another thing entirely to practise it on a Tuesday when you’re tired, uncertain, and the path ahead isn’t clear.
Real openness isn’t a grand gesture. It doesn’t always look like booking a flight or making a bold career leap. More often, it looks like small, almost invisible choices made consistently over time.
It might look like pausing before you say no to something unfamiliar, and asking yourself whether your hesitation is wisdom or fear. It might look like spending five quiet minutes each morning noticing what you’re feeling, rather than immediately reaching for your phone. It might look like choosing one conversation you’ve been avoiding, or following one small creative impulse you’ve been dismissing as impractical.
Tools like flower readings can be a beautiful support here — a way of checking in with yourself intuitively, noticing what’s alive in you right now, and staying connected to your inner compass even on ordinary days. The healing energy of flowers can gently support this process of staying open, especially when life feels heavy or uncertain.
Openness is a practice, not a personality trait. Some days it will feel natural; other days it will feel like a deliberate act of courage. Both count.
Open Yourself To the Unknown and Trust Your Intuition
Opening up means surrendering to the unknown, and that can feel scary. But what if, instead of fearing it, you chose to embrace it?
Imagine that the universe is working behind the scenes, aligning everything for your highest good. Even when things feel uncertain, even when you don’t know the outcome, trust that staying open will bring you exactly where you need to be.
So take a deep breath. Loosen your grip. Open just a little more today than you did yesterday. Because the moment you do, you invite in the magic of possibility.
Your Questions About Trusting Your Intuition, Answered
How do I know the difference between intuition and fear or anxiety?
Intuition tends to be calm and clear — a quiet knowing that doesn’t need to justify itself. Fear and anxiety are louder, more urgent, and often loop in circles. A useful check: when you sit quietly and ask yourself what you truly sense about a situation, what do you hear before your mind starts arguing? That first, still response is usually intuition. Fear usually arrives a moment later with a list of reasons.
What if I’ve been wrong before when I followed my gut?
Everyone has. Trusting your intuition doesn’t mean you’ll always get perfect outcomes — it means you’re practising listening to yourself, and that practice deepens over time. Often what feels like intuition leading us astray is actually unprocessed emotion or wishful thinking dressed up as a gut feeling. Learning to distinguish them is part of the journey, and it gets clearer with practice and honest self-reflection.
Is it possible to rebuild trust in yourself after a painful experience?
Absolutely — and for many people, it becomes stronger than it ever was before. Rebuilding self-trust is a gradual process. It starts with small promises you make to yourself and keep. It grows through practices that help you reconnect with your body and emotions. And it deepens as you begin to see that even in difficult chapters, your instincts were often right — or trying to be heard.
How can I start developing my intuition if I’ve never really paid attention to it?
Start small and stay curious. Notice what you’re drawn to without immediately analysing why. Pay attention to physical sensations — the sense of ease or constriction in your body when you consider different choices. Spend time in nature, where the noise of daily life quietens and subtler signals have room to surface. Tools like flower readings can also be a gentle, accessible way to begin exploring your intuitive responses in a supported, nurturing setting.
Can intuition be developed, or is it something you either have or you don’t?
It can absolutely be developed. Intuition isn’t a rare gift reserved for certain people — it’s a natural human capacity that most of us simply haven’t been taught to value or listen to. Like any skill, it strengthens with attention and practice. The more you tune in, the clearer the signal becomes.
Coming Next: Experiencing the Journey
Once you’ve allowed and opened, how do you fully immerse yourself in the process and embrace the journey ahead? Stay tuned for the next blog, where we’ll explore the power of experiencing and stepping into the flow of life.
Are you ready to take the next step? Stay open — it’s leading you exactly where you need to be.
Book a session today and let’s explore what becomes possible when you start trusting yourself again.
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